It’s that time of the year when we make our resolutions, what will yours be? Have you made a detailed step by step plan to help you achieve your goals? And more importantly have you given yourself realistic time frames in which to achieve them? Studies have shown that people who goal set are 80% more likely to achieve them than those who don’t.
Perhaps you are planning to lose some weight?
If that is your goal I can certainly give you some ideas to help you to get your mind on board when it comes to shifting some kilos…
Your mind (pls link mind to The subconscious mind blog) is the most powerful part of you, you’ll hear me say this over and over again but that’s ok, the mind learns by repetition so I’ll happily repeat myself J
Before you even begin on your journey it will be really helpful to know some things about the mind as they pertain to reducing your weight because understanding is power.
The first thing you must understand is that we all came into the world with a healthy attitude to food, we never wanted for anything when we were in the womb and therefore, on coming into the world, we just expect food and drink to be there 24 hours a day as needed, just as it was in the womb. That’s why; at a toddlers birthday party, the kids tend to eat what they want and then happily hand you back half eaten cake or snacks. That’s because they are playing, having fun and the expectation is that food is always available whenever they want it. They can either eat it or leave it, it’s really not that important. A young child’s belief is; “I don’t have to eat now, I’ll eat when I’m ready because there is always enough food and it’ll be there when I want it.”
Our relationship with food starts to change with our programming or our conditioning. It changes when poor Jonnie hurts himself and is given an ice-cream to distract him from the pain (like expressing our pain through tears is a bad thing!) Or when Susie is rewarded with candy for being a good girl and when we are told to hurry up and finish our dinner or the classic; “Clear your plate, there are people in the world who are starving” which guilt’s us into over eating. Our conditioning changes what we think about food and we stop using food purely for nourishment and instead it becomes so much more.
Here are some thing’s to take on board to help you on your journey:
1. You’ve got to start loving your body instead of hating it. It’s a hard one to grasp I know, but imagine you are the boss and you keep telling your loyal assistant how bad she looks every day. How you hate this bit of her and if only that bit of her would change? Do you think she’d want to work for you and help you get to where you want to be? Doubtful! If on the other hand you fall in love with your body (we’ll leave the assistant analogy now as falling in love with your assistant may not be conducive to your work life or perhaps your home life!) and see your body how it can be because you love it, you’ll want to feed it the right things right? You want to give it plenty of water, take it to the gym and take care of it. With this mindset change alone it can help make things a lot easier for you.
2. Forget about dieting, diets are only temporary. Denying yourself the things you love is only temporary. Instead start thinking about healthy eating and exercise as a lifelong lifestyle change. You’re doing this for your health and your future, you are doing this to prevent illness and we all know prevention is better than cure.
3. Emotion is always more powerful than logic. Consider somebody who’s afraid of flying: you can talk until you are blue in the face about air traffic being safer statistically than road traffic and how a plane cannot just drop out of the sky. However, it really wouldn’t matter as that person has a picture in their head and the feeling of fear is very strong. Your logical point of view will not override it. The only way to get around this is to deal with the emotion. Once the emotion is dealt with (typically you need to look at where it came from in the first pace) then the fear either loses its strength or will no longer be there.
4. Take a look at the food you are really eating. If you can change the picture in your head you associate with the foods you typically eat, you can effect real change in your eating habits. For example; many Vegans don’t have a hard time not eating meat because they hate the idea of animals dying to provide their meals. If you are allergic to a certain food, you won’t eat it because you know that food is going to cause you pain or discomfort by making you sick. If you ate seafood in the past and it made you violently ill, it is likely you will never eat it again and that’s because of the pictures we have in our head about that food what we associate with it
For a little exercise; have a little research at the ingredients in a packet of Pringles (I have certainly never touched them since I found out what goes into them). If candy is your vice, take a look at how the candy is made. It’s far, far easier to stop eating foods that are bad for you when you are put off by them.
5. We eat a staggering 70% more when food is in our line of vision so don’t leave snacks where you can see them.
If you would like help on your journey, please contact me. With RTT (Please link RTT to 1st blog) I can help you look at the beliefs that created your negative eating patterns or the why the weight just won’t go when you are seemingly doing all the right things. Weight isn’t always about food, there are many reasons your mind might decide that carrying excess weight is serving you.
It really is fascinating and as I said earlier, understanding is power. Once you understand the cause behind the actions you take you can change them forever. I’d love to help you become your ideal size, send me a WhatsApp and we can have a chat.
Much love until next time.
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